Living with a crazy person
After 2 weeks, H3 is trying to finally move all the furniture back into the living room. He started today around 2:00. Of course I would help but first I decided that we should completely unload the entertainment center so we did not scratch the floor moving it. Unfortunately H3 had to unwire all the electronics so they could come out of the cabinet.
After he got them out of the cabinet, I realized it would be a good time to wipe the cabinet down and get to all the dust you can’t reach when it’s full. While I was dusting it, I started thinking about the chipped veneer around the bottom. That’s when I remembered that I had some veneer sheets in the storage room. I bought them over 3 years ago when I was going to refinish it. What better time to fix the veneer than when the cabinet is empty, right?
So I found the tools to remove all the veneer around the bottom and I put the new veneer on. But then it needed to be stained to match so I had to search for the right color. Finally, the veneer was fixed and we moved the cabinet into the living room. It looked better than ever, except the top looked a little dull compared to the new bottom. (Your following were I am going right!)
So I had to sand the top and put a fresh coat of stain and polyurethane on it. While I was at it I figured I would go ahead and spruce up the top of the library table that had a few water marks on it. I mean you can’t have one piece looking good and not the other. So now it is 10:30 pm and H3 is just now getting the electronics back into the cabinet. And in the past 8 hours that is the only piece of furniture that has made it back into the room.
He is either going to kill me or leave me. I am not sure which one yet.
Friday, November 10, 2006 | | 1 Comments
And the beat goes on
Things are still in turmoil over the work situation. All the problems stem from one know-it-all SOB. This guy likes to sit around blowing hot air, trying to prove to everyone how smart he is.
In reality he has little “real world” experience, outside of being self employed. He has zero corporate experience. They would eat this guy alive in the corporate world.
Anyway we are still debating over the details of a partnership contract. This is a project that I created and executed. This partnership will generate additional revenue for the company but for 13 months we have been screwing around with getting it executed.
Right now we get nothing, zero, nada. My thought is it's better to get a little bit of something instead of a whole lot of nothing. But each time we get close to finalizing it someone adds their two-cents and kills the momentum.
This time it's over how the partner companies are listed and who signs the contract. For 13 months I have negotiated with the other partners and they all agreed to give my company managing control. After all the work I have done this pompous ass sends out and e-mail questioning the wording in my contract (I think he used the term sloppy) and he wants the by-laws changed so that all contracts have to be signed by a board officer, not me.
After several condescending e-mails I called the chairman of the board (who I adore) and said you don't pay me enough to put up with someone talking down to me. Then I basically said, either you all put him in his place or I am gone.
In retrospect this was not a wise move -- but not for the reasons you think. The reason I regret doing it is that there are so many people on the board that I do respect and I feel that I have put them in an uncomfortable situation.
As far as the job goes I could take it or leave it. The fact is that I could make a lot more money picking up more consulting work. In fact, my current consulting work brings in 75 % more per month than the job. I took the job because I thought it would be fun and I thought I would be really good at it.
The board knew that I was over qualified for the position but I assured them that I was looking for a place where I could make a difference and have less stress than in the corporate world.
So call me arrogant but they can't get someone with my experience for the entry level salary they pay. And at this point in my life I refuse to let some sad little man talk down to me or "try to put me in my place."
The revenue is up 30 percent since I took over and I have established some very important industry relationships. I feel I like I have more than proven my worth and I'm sorry but I demand to be treated with respect.
So why am I second guessing myself and why do I feel like I crossed the line?
Thursday, November 09, 2006 | | 1 Comments
You like me, you really like me
The phone has been ringing off the hook for the past two days. It seems like a majority of board memebers were shocked by the events that took place the other night.
Everyone keeps calling to see if I am okay and to offer their support. The consensus is that everyone was so blindsided by the attack that no one knew what to do so they sat there looking stunned.
I feel better now that I know I have so much support.
Wednesday, November 08, 2006 | | 1 Comments
14 days and counting down
Life pretty much sucks right now. Thank God I will head home in 14 days to see my family and friends.
The floor refinishing project has turned into a major fiasco and a financial drain.
When the first comment on every tutorial reads "Warning: hire a professional" it's no joke. As usual my attempt to save a few dollars(read cheap) has ended up costing me as much (if not more) than the cost of hiring a professional.
It's been 10 days and the living room furniture is still in the kitchen. We have stripped the floor twice, spent 3 days sanding the floor and been through numerous colors of stain. We also have been required to eat out every night since Oct. 28, because we can't get to the stove. This means I am broke and gaining weight. I will dwell more on the ill fated floor project in a future post.
While there are several things that have me in a major funk, the "icing on the cake" came last night when I was ambushed during a monthly board meeting. It was so bad that one of the board members walked out during the meeting and plans to resign because he is so angry about the way I was treated. In a later phone converstaion he said at one point in the meeting I looked like a deer caught in head lights.
I can't say I was as stunned(I had a feeling that things might not be all warm and fuzzy) but in replaying the comments over in my head, were some very condescending things said that I did not pick up on at the time.
Of course I did not sit there like a beaten dog. For the first time I stood my ground. It's really difficult to have someone with little or no business experience sit there and question your decisions; especially when revenue increased more than 30 percent during my first year.
H3 wants me to walk in and resign tomorrow. Unfortunately (or fortunately) that is not my style. While it's not a money issue (I make three-times more a month from consulting work) I can't just walk away from the benefits. When your husband is diabetic and you have kids that need health coverage you can't be that irresponsible.
I may start looking around but then again I learned the hard way that dealing with the devil you know is better than the devil you don't. I made the mistake of thinking the grass was greener somewhere else, and it’s a choice I have lived to regret.
So here I am at 3:09 am stressing about things I have no control over. I keep trying to remind myself of all the positives. Let’s see there is the flexibility, ....
Okay, so I can only come up with one for now, but I am sure there are others.
Tuesday, November 07, 2006 | | 2 Comments